Title: Lovelife updates!
Posted: March 12, 2010 (12:42 PM)
There's this girl in my house who I liked. She's blonde and pretty and has an interesting way of talking.
About three weeks ago I asked if she wanted to go out for a run since it came up in conversation that it was one of her activities. I chose this because it's pretty casual, it's something we have in common, and since it's something she already does, presumably she wouldn't need to make extra time for it. At the time, she said yes, gave me a time frame ("maybe Thursday, otherwise the weekend"), and even said "you're going to see a totally different side of me." It sounded very promising.
Friday of that same week I ran into her and asked if she was up for a run on Saturday, but she said she was really busy. I then said "how about Sunday?" and she said she had a midterm and was booked. I didn't expect this contingency and was pretty disappointed. I also couldn't help the paranoia that maybe she just didn't want to run with me but wouldn't say so, and I had no way of knowing for sure.
From then until now I only ran into her a few times and just made very brief small talk. I ran into her last night, and asked, "hey, when are we going to go running?" At this point I wasn't expecting an affirmative response, but what I got was even weirder than what I expected. She said something like:
"To be honest, I don't think I like running with people. I blow my nose and burp and breathe really heavily while I'm running. It's really embarrassing. It would probably change your perspective on me."
My response was basically, "Okay, well if you change your mind, let me know."
At this point I'm basically going to leave it at that. I don't think I'm going to make any extra effort to talk to her beyond when we happen to run into each other, and I'm certainly not going to press the issue about running.
I'm also feeling more certain about my original paranoid feelings. I told this story to a friend and said that it kind of sounds like bullshit. His response was:
"Kind of? You mean it didn't smell like bullshit?"
It originally seemed kind of pointless to me to keep trying to ask girls out in my last semester of college. I eventually saw it as an opportunity to work on my skills while being relatively detached from the results.
I have a new prospect, someone younger who I know even less. I was planning to talk to her and ask her out at these weekly student organization meetings, but as it turned out, there happened to not be a meeting this week! So I have to try next week, which is right before Spring Break, which means even less time. Oh well, I already know not to expect much under the circumstances.
Posted: March 12, 2010 (06:34 PM)
Ah, I love it when a salacious title like 'lovelife updates' pops up in my friend blog window!
Having no presence in the situation at all, I can say things like - It's possible her running story may be true. Though if it was, and she thought you were making a first overture towards her, you might have expected that she suggest an alternative meeting/activity. But then again, some people don't do this kind of thing. And some people might only do it if they were in the right mood at the time, or not distracted in that particular moment.
The thing about relative strangers is in truth, we have no idea what they are thinking. All she has really said to you is no, I don't want to run with you. Maybe she would say that to everyone. My suggestion, if you steel feel interested, would be just ask her out more directly. That's the only way to get a potentially more direct answer, or at least a 2nd fob. Two fobs is a pattern and we can start reading more meaning in if we choose to :)
Posted: March 12, 2010 (10:32 PM)
On the other hand, doing that is just like asking her to fob you. I don't actually mean anything by that, but the chance to say "Asking her to fob you" and have it make sense is one that may never come along again in my lifetime so it had to be done. You understand.
Posted: March 13, 2010 (01:10 AM)
I wouldn't want to date a belching runner anyway.
Posted: March 13, 2010 (04:54 PM)
Strangely enough, I have never heard the word "fob" before in my life.
I specifically chose running because it was less direct and could even be interpreted as a purely friendly invitation. One of the problems however, is that I liked this girl the last time we were housemates (in Fall of 2008), and she knows that I liked her back then, since I asked her out more directly at that time but she said she was seeing someone. Sorry if that was a run-on. My point is, she's probably primed to interpret any attempt on my part to spend time with her as a date. I have also been told by a mutual friend that she's picky.
Posted: March 13, 2010 (07:50 PM)
PIcky - who isn't?
The outrageously promiscuous, I guess.